Bitter Endings, To Sweet Beginings.

I think they call it the honeymoon phase right? They always say, wait until the honeymoon stage is over or wait until you move in together, the fact is like a lot of things in this life it is a chance and you have to believe and have faith!  In the end it always starts out with the best of intentions, but these sweet beginning always seem to never go to bed and end with bitter endings. They stay with me night and day and in the end, I see all that I have done and who I have hurt. All the things I have done to my mother and grandmother, to embarrassed to write them down here, because I am still the coward I want to call everyone else! Two amazing women, one I should have married for sure, both moving on because it all sounded good, the problem was that was the problem, it sounded good. Captain Jack Sparrow says it best, “the problem isn’t the problem, the problem is your attitude toward the problem, do you understand?” The problem has never been the problem stupid, what you are going to do about the problem and change these bitter endings into new sweeter beginnings is all that matters. That is all anybody has ever wanted to see, that fact that it matters and you care and you aren’t going to keep trudging through life and doing it the same way! When you are ahead in life, your friends get to know who you are, when you are down, you get to know who your friends are. Who was there no matter how badly you screwed up and who left you behind and moved on without you or chose someone else over you, Dont be bitter, or you will have bitter endings, but make yourself better and just watch what happens!  In they end it is about not giving up and finding the ones who matter who are willing to go through the shit with you and not give up on you! Hold on to those people tight, and let go of these people who may have started out with sweet beginnings, but only  left us with bitter endings!


When The Weed And The Whiskey Quit Working!

At some point you come out of the haze and realize you want more. You realize somehow you decided to make this okay when it never was! You even worse somehow through it all gave up on yourself. On what you could be, let yourself get trampled on and laughed at like a chump! Hurt all the ones who mattered most to you and lost quite a few of them along the way! Funny how you see most these pot smokers and wether it is medical or not, how productive are they? Most of these people at the legalize rallies,, if you look at them, well!!!!! The best are the ones like me who deny its a problem when you can never quite seem to finish anything! Be careful, life at any time can finish you! At some point the weed and the whiskey quit working and you have to face what you did! You have to let go of what is lost and you hdve to put one foot in front of the other and start making it happen!? Because the whiskey ain’t working anymore!


If They Sleep On You Remember, They Once Forgot About Dre Too!

The punchline of Eazy-E’s real mutha fucking G’s, to he doesn’t put out enough albums, to he is finished to first rap billionaire! Funny things can happen sometimes when they sleep on you, if you do what Dre did and do the work behind the scenes. Figure out a way to make something different, to make a product that not so long ago was thought to be not so cool. Bulky headphones that you have to wear on top of your head like a radio traffic controler or a kid with head-gear for his braces and a billion later, well nobody seems to have forgotten about Dre! If they sleep on you, you have two choices, prove them right or prove them wrong. All the hard work losing the weight and beating cigarettes and looking the best I have in my life and compliments in the world don’t matter if I wont take care of the shit that matters. At some point you have to grow a pair and if they sleep on you, prove them wrong and move on, their mistake not yours, they may ignore you now, but they will need you down the line. At that point it is up to you to be man or woman enough to walk away and ignore it. The ones  who slept on you weren’t the ones who stood by you and in the end werent the ones that were meant to be in your life! Remember life has many chapters, just because this one sucks doesn’t mean that the next one has to and guess what? You get to choose how that chapter plays out, in the end we control our own destiny by the choices we make and the time that we waste. The most dangerous thing you can do is sleep on yourself and listen to what they are saying about you. Sure you made mistakes, but so did they, but not believing in yourself and not believing that you are worth it and letting yourself be treated like you don’t matter doesn’t cut it, so move on. If they sleep on you, stay up late and do the work that they wont do while they are sleeping. If they sleep on you, don’t be bitter because they are in a better place right now and rubbing your nose in it, remember this. “Lesson of time, karma: When  bird is alive, it eats ants. When the bird is dead, ants eat the bird. Time and circumstances can change at any time, dont devalue or hurt anyone in life. You may be powerful today, but remember time is more powerful than you! One tree makes a million match sticks, but it only takes one matchstick to burn down a million trees, so be good and do good.”


“Student Gets Trapped In Giant Vagina Sculpture!

What?? Had to make sure I read that right, okay I did! And of course the funny thing to say here would be giant vagina and ex! #lol#sorrynotsorry or something like that is how I think it goes! At some point there has to come a point, where you are adult enough to deal with it and move on. Where you give up playing it over and over again every night in your head about how it could of went down different, and finally get some sleep! Where as mad as you are and as shitty as it feels what was done to you, you move on and quit hoping they get hit by a bus and drug 500 feet to there death and let it go! Obviously you can tell I am totally over it and not bitter or angry at all:-)!  A time when you decide once and for all what you want and you quit sitting on the fence and going back and forth about it and do what it takes to make it yours! By the way, did you hear about the student who got stuck in the giant vagina? Maybe it’s time to get down to business and quit being a giant vagina!


A Word To The Wise!

You will think you know it all, until you figure out you don’t. You will wish a few more times you had listened to mom and dad, only to realize after the fact they were right. You are going to know before hand that you are making the wrong choice, but your going to make it anyways! Jealousy, greed and hate at some point in your life will rear it’s ugly head! How you deal with it in the end will ultimately define you! You are going to hurt people you wish you hadn’t and you are going to be hurt the worst by people you thought never would! You are going to be forced to let go of something that you want so badly, you think it might just kill you! You are going to be wrong and know it, yet still argue the point into the ground! At some point we all have egg on our face, so while your laughing at someone else’s, there may very well be and omlet being prepared for yours! You will see all the ugliness this world has to offer and at some point something will make you so mad, that you too will judge! You will love  and lose the one you think you are supposed to love the rest of your life, love again! You will lose people to soon, lose faith in humanity and at times question faith in yourself, live again! A word to the wise, all those things will happen, but what I didn’t tell you, you’re going to be okay and you’re going to survive them!


Advancing To The Knockout Round!

Every battle in sports and in life there in the end is always a winner and a loser. This isnt grade school where everybody gets a metal for competing, this is life and in the end we all face a knockout round. A moment in our life where we decide if we have the guts to make it or if we will settle for what is and what has happened to us. A moment when your placed in the group of Death and not even your coach at times would think you had a chance to win, wink wink! They are just words you know, “we have no chance to win this World Cup,” and Group of Death! Words kill dreams, words make the strongest men at times breakdown and  cry, and  sticks and stones will break your bones, but bitter words from the ones we care about will always hurt us, you’re a liar if you say any different! In the end to advance to the knockout round in life and win you must remember two things. They are just words, and the only thing still standing between you and what you want? It is quite simply ladies and gentleman, the face looking back at you in the mirror every morning when you brush your teeth! The one thing in life and in sport that you can’t do if you ever expect to get to the knockout round is  beat yourself! Lazy defense and a late Ronoldo cross  put the United States in a position today where Ghana very well could have advanced! They beat themselves, in the last-minute of one of the most important matches of their lives, they beat themselves and made a lazy mistake! In the end they advance anyway, but when you chose to beat yourself, you put your fate at times in someone elses hands and when you do that! You get knocked out every single time!  We need a few more guys like Clint Dempsey in the world, guys who want it, guys who grew up in a trailer park with a chip on their shoulder, guys who get knocked down and keep getting up. Guys who want it and have heart, guys who realize what it is all about. They got away with one today because Portugal bailed us out, sometimes all you need is a little help to realize your dream. Sometimes what you thought you wanted, was the worst thing possible for you and that push in the other direction was the help you needed to make it all happen if you realize it and use it instead of sitting around and whining about it! On to the knockout round, GO U.S.A. and remember life is about seizing the opportunities. It doesn’t matter if you went in 3-0 or had to beat Portugal on goal differential, when you’re in, you have a chance and that is all we can ask for in this life. Dont always look at the how and why and talk yourself out of it, look at the opportunity in front of you as it presents itself, or get knocked out!


There Is No Greater Danger, Than Playing It Safe!

There is no greater danger than not giving it everything you had and leaving a why! Why’s are for pussies, no other way to say it, when you go after everything you want and stand up and be a man, then and only then can you say you did all you could. There is no greater danger than sitting on the sidelines playing it safe in this game that we call life! What good is being in the best shape of your life do you, when you are playing it safe and to afraid to do what you are supposed to? So the girl you should have lays next to someone else tonight and you can’t even go on a date with a different girl because your just oh so fucking broken up about it that you can’t take care of business. Like you are the only one who has had his heart ripped out and stomped on, guess what stupid? It happens every single frigging day that this world turns so boo hoo you and keep playing it safe. Dont take the risk and don’t put yourself out there, keep living this life the way you have been and keep settling for about half of what you should have! Get back to me in a year and tell me how playing it safe worked out for you. There is no greater danger than letting your life stall because you are afraid to take the risk. First it is a month and it’s oh I will take care of it and then you are looking down the barrel of a year going how in the hell. Then that year turns plural and you start losing what matters, they either die or they choose to move on because you are a sinking ship and nobody wants to tie their hopes and dreams to a sinking ship that simply wont help himself!  There will come a moment in your life when you run out of moments, maybe it six like my friends  daughter, maybe at thirty-six, my age, you never know. So play it safe, don’t ask the girl out, don’t chase your dreams, dont go after what you really want. Be content with just getting by and just enough, there is this saying about just a dog, let me show you the type of attitude that people who play it safe walk around with!


From time to time, people tell me, “lighten up, it’s just a dog,”
or “that’s a lot of money for just a dog.”

They don’t understand the distance travelled, the time spent,
or the costs involved for “just a dog.”

Some of my proudest moments have come about with “just a dog.”

Many hours have passed and my only company was “just a dog,”
but I did not once feel slighted.

Some of my saddest moments have been brought about by
“just a dog,” and in those days of darkness, the gentle touch
of “just a dog” gave me comfort and reason to overcome the day.

If you, too, think it’s “just a dog,” then you probably understand
phrases like “just a friend,” “just a sunrise,” or “just a promise.”

“Just a dog” brings into my life the very essence of friendship,
trust, and pure unbridled joy.
“Just a dog” brings out the compassion and patience
that make me a better person.
Because of “just a dog” I will rise early, take long walks and look
longingly to the future.

So for me and folks like me, it’s not “just a dog”
but an embodiment of all the hopes and dreams of the future,
the fond memories of the past, and the pure joy of the moment.

“Just a dog” brings out what’s good in me and diverts my thoughts
away from myself and the worries of the day.

I hope that someday they can understand that its’ not “just a dog”
but the thing that gives me humanity and keeps me from being
“just a man” or “just a woman.”

So the next time you hear the phrase “just a dog,”
just smile,
because they “just don’t understand.”

It’s not just a dog ladies and gentleman, it every second of this journey in life that we are privileged to take is far more than that. The next time you catch yourself saying its just a, stop and think for a second and do me one favor, just ask this question. what has playing it safe got you?